Basically, a sex-negative approach is antipleasure. It preaches abstinence only, and it doesn't recognize that for some men, sex without a condom fulfills a variety of deep important needs, some of which are actually spiritual.
Jane Gaines argues that critiques such as Bartky's are overly moralistic and antipleasure. It is possible, instead, to reclaim female "indulgences" and turn them into powers.