intends "to advance the victim's well-being and affirm the breached value" (N.
A dilemma arises because, where the law offers no protection, such an apology has the potential to be used as an admission by the apologizee to help prove liability against the apologizer
Such "superfluous apologies," or "expressions of regret for an undesirable circumstance that is clearly outside of one's control," communicates that the apologizer
"has taken the victim's perspective, acknowledges adversity and expresses regret.
Much might depend on who offers the apology and what his or her motivation is discerned to be, the degree of authority the apologizer
is perceived to have as a spokesperson for Christians, many personal characteristics of those viewing the apology (such as their empathy for the apologizer
), and situational factors that might make the issue more or less salient at the time of the apology.
They would, however, serve one of the functions of apologies already noted: a signal of concern about other people's feelings and of the value that the apologizer
placed on his or her relationship with those people.
Steeped in the language of the business world that many men are already familiar with, Field Bolek says being an effective apologizer
requires that you first be a positive, effective leader.
Circumstances today are putting professors in the role of being "the great apologizer
But more often than not, skipping the recognition step results in a statement that just compounds the offense because it leaves the victim uncertain whether the apologizer
understands why the victim is so upset.
Smith dissects the texts to show how they avoid acknowledgment and responsibility for wrongdoing, deliberately obfuscate the issues, or even offer justifications, with the apologizer
seeking to protect himself or herself rather than repair a moral wrong.
Such a record will often include honest accounts of the mental states of the apologizer
at the time of the offense when such information would prove relevant, for example by describing the offender's intentions when committing the transgression.
And beware of the "serial apologizer
," who apologizes repeatedly for the same mistakes.
attitude when the apologizer
expresses remorse for past hurt and the