Is he an apologist or a calculated apologizer
? Did he really kick the crap out of a senator twice his weight in a boxing match or was it all staged?
The recipient will probably already know, but it's nice to know the apologizer
A dilemma arises because, where the law offers no protection, such an apology has the potential to be used as an admission by the apologizee to help prove liability against the apologizer
. (37) One need not be a sociologist armed with endless data to foresee the potential pitfalls of this approach.
Such "superfluous apologies," or "expressions of regret for an undesirable circumstance that is clearly outside of one's control," communicates that the apologizer
"has taken the victim's perspective, acknowledges adversity and expresses regret."
Much might depend on who offers the apology and what his or her motivation is discerned to be, the degree of authority the apologizer
is perceived to have as a spokesperson for Christians, many personal characteristics of those viewing the apology (such as their empathy for the apologizer
), and situational factors that might make the issue more or less salient at the time of the apology.
As such apologies are not admissions of guilt, they would not directly imply that an ambiguous incident should be identified or categorized as a wound inflicted by the apologizer
. They would, however, serve one of the functions of apologies already noted: a signal of concern about other people's feelings and of the value that the apologizer
placed on his or her relationship with those people.
Steeped in the language of the business world that many men are already familiar with, Field Bolek says being an effective apologizer
requires that you first be a positive, effective leader.
She also focuses on themes of identity and subjectivity, questioning who is making and who needs to be making apologies or reparations; people's acceptance or refusal to accept the subject position of the apologizer
; what the subject's intentions were regarding the harm that occurred and whether this matters; and the issue of personal versus collective apologies.
Circumstances today are putting professors in the role of being "the great apologizer
." As libraries slashed their collections, both digital and print, contracts for licensed services were often due in the middle of a semester.
Benjamin Ho offers a more prosaic explanation--a mathematical formula suggesting that it is rational for an actor to accept an apology to the extent that it "acts as a signal of the apologizer
's fitness for future interaction." Benjamin Ho, Apologies as Signals: With Evidence from a Trust Game 39 (Cornell Univ., Johnson Sch.
(6) For a discussion of the ways in which the Harper apology for residential schooling constructs Aboriginal families in the language of psychological "deviance," see Eva Mackey, "The Apologizer
's Apology," in Reconciling Canada: Critical Perspectives on the Culture of Redress, eds.
To the offender this step may seem as obvious as the offense itself and therefore it may be tempting to just get through the apology or "get on with it." But more often than not, skipping the recognition step results in a statement that just compounds the offense because it leaves the victim uncertain whether the apologizer
understands why the victim is so upset.