* Don't be overly critical of a birth parent
if he or she rejects your child.
I was disappointed to find that the editor permitted use of the term "natural" to describe a birth parent
("Maternal Depression Predicts Children's Behavior Problems," July 2006, p.
If the birth parent
is the applicant the adopted child does not have to undergo counselling (Mullender 1991:133).
Children might need to adjust to the loss of a relationship with a birth parent
or sibling while getting to know new stepfamily members.)
For some, finding that they are not genetically related to a birth parent
, or meeting someone they are genetically related to, can be a very important part of their identity formation.
Also, friends/relatives will ask about the new parents' children, but the question will invariably be asked of the birth parent
, not the "new" parent, who has to sit there, knowing he/she is equally contributing to the children's lives, but feels unappreciated.
For adoptees, the lack of birth parent
information can be a source
Using Positive Adoption Language Say Don't Say Birth parent
, birth Real parent or natural parent mother, birth father or biological parent Birth child Own child, real child, natural child, unwed mother, unwed father, illegitimate child, or unwanted child Make an adoptive Give up, surrender, give away, plan, transfer adopt out parental rights Mother, father, or Adoptive parent parents Special needs Hard-to-place child Say Why?
"The idea that the child is the first client, the birth parent
is the second, and the adoptive parent is the third--that has created such a healthy approach for us to grow with Simon and his birth parents
and their parents.
Speakers will include Deputy Minister for Children, Gwenda Thomas, as well as an adoptive parent, a birth parent
and adopted adult and poet, Anwen Lewis.
Someday your adoptive mom may tell you more about gout birth parent
, but perhaps she doesn't know much or knows of troubles that she hesitates to share.
The birth parent
and adoptive families who were panelists at the "Talking with Expectant Parents" workshop provided a close-up view of the private domestic adoption process.