(d) Instead of being a therapist who is here to provide interventions, to 'therapize
' a client, to do things to the client, the therapist is the teacher-guide who shows the person what to do, who joins with the person in doing these things, and who undergoes the stepwise changes together with the client.'" While Violet did not seem to experience "painful feelings," she was aware that her mother told her that her experiences were something we don't share with others, perhaps interpreting as shameful or something to be feared.
In the period of immediate loss, when normal supports (such as organization and roles) are suspended, it does not make sense to "therapize
" the people and risk further destabilization.